Mark Rudov believes that men should boycott Valentines day. Personally, I agree that Valentine's day has become an over-commercialized holiday that parallels itself to New Years Eve... a let down. Why? Because men think like Mark Rudov.
His reasoning for boycotting Valentines day is:
- All about her
- Phony, expected, guilt-driven, overpriced
- All about her
- Facebook says it’s breakup day
- All about her
He also says:
Nomance Day? Yes.
It certainly isn’t Romance Day!
Romance is SPONTANEOUS,
Romance is UNEXPECTED,
Romance is VOLUNTARY,
Romance is MUTUAL.
ALL nonexistent on Valentine’s Day.
It certainly isn’t Romance Day!
Romance is SPONTANEOUS,
Romance is UNEXPECTED,
Romance is VOLUNTARY,
Romance is MUTUAL.
ALL nonexistent on Valentine’s Day.
Men universally dread Valentine’s Day
but go along with it anyway.
but go along with it anyway.
Why?
They think it’s the key to getting laid.
How stupid is that? Very stupid.
How stupid is that? Very stupid.
In my response, I'd just like to say that if a man feels this way about spending time with you, regardless of what day/event/holiday it is... you should probably give him the silent treatment for at least a week... maybe longer.
Now I am not one to be pro-valentines day, but it seems that Mark is a conformist. He feels the pressure to do what he believes everyone else is doing on Valentines day. Previously, for my single ladies, I wrote why I believed Valentine's day to be stupid. I will now draw the other circle to the venn diagram and tell you why Mark Rudov's reasoning is stupid.
1. Valentine's day is about being in love. Last I checked, being in love involves both parties.
2. It is not our fault that women's taste involves jewelry and champagne while a man's is beer and [sport name here]. It is also not our fault that sending flowers, candy, chocolate or buying jewelry with hearts for a man would be both under-appreciated and gay.
3. Valentine's day does not need to be "dress up and spend money" day. In fact, in some cases, a fancy dinner might make the evening awkward or uncomfortable. If you so choose to celebrate valentines day it should be an evening designed around what fits your relationship, not what you THINK you should be doing.
4. There is nothing sexier than a man planning a successfully sweet and romantic evening.
5. Valentine's day should be looked at as a day to show appreciation and adoration. It doesn't need to be looked at as a chore. You could turn anything into a chore. Ugh... it's her birthday. Ugh... it's our anniversary. Ugh... she wants me to go to dinner with her. Ugh... it's our wedding day.
6. Men, if it is important to your girlfriend, it should be important to you. If you decide to cancel Valentine's Day for yourself and your honey, there are still millions of other people out there celebrating it. Therefore, you're setting yourself up to look like an asshole, start a fight, and hurt your girl. Suck it up.
Is it really that bad? Ultimately, after taking a silent poll in my head of what the most important thing to a girl is on Valentine's Day, the answer is: Spending time with her.
A boyfriend knows what his girlfriend would enjoy on Valentine's Day. It isn't rocket science. If a man feels like there is too much expectation on a silly day of love, what other uncomfortable expectations might he be feeling in the relationship?
Regardless, not every woman responds the same to jewelry, flowers, candy, dinners...etc... Valentine's Day shouldn't be about buying LAVISH things to get a girl into bed. It should be about knowing what it is for you as a couple that makes you feel "the love." So whether this is dinner on a rooftop, a drive-in movie or going bowling... a couple should never feel "forced" to make each other feel special or loved, that should be something they want to do. If they don't, they should find someone else to spend Valentine's Day with.
And Mark, if none of this struck a chord with you... do you really think that boycotting Valentine's Day will make it easier to get your girlfriend to sleep with you? Then again... you probably don't have a girlfriend.
What a surprise, self entitled woman can't give a decent argument so goes for shaming language and personal attack. Spoken like a true feminism brainwashed woman.
ReplyDeleteCouldn't of said it better myself!
DeleteLet me just say this: She is the All nonsense woman.
DeleteThat is all.
I tell my girlfriend I love her everyday, i don't see Valenntines day on my calender because its just a regular day.
ReplyDeleteShe actually laughs at men who rush around in panic mode .
So do you don't expect to give/do something equally nice for your man on valentines? (sex doesnt count since its already mutual).
ReplyDeleteyour point 2) Your gender stereotyping of guys is insulting and actually quite often wrong.
your point 4) This is only true if you happen to be the woman. You've probably never noticed or even tried, but men find it VERY romantic when a women organizes an evening, mostly because it NEVER happens. Most women NEVER take the initiative to arrange anything. They, and society, just expect the guy to arrange and pay for it all, all the time, and complain if it isn't perfect or happens as frequently as they think it shoould.
Your point 6: Yes and Women if something is important to your man, it should be important to you too. You should watch football and drink beer with him on valentines day lol see how that works?
Thank God you said that because all of her points were around a man basically Manning up for lack of a better phrase she said "suck it up" no miss, that's your job.
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