Want to feel better?
- 15% of U.S. women send themselves flowers on Valentine's Day. (So at least you aren't pathetic)
- Over $1billion USD worth of chocolate is purchased for Valentine's Day. (You don't want to eat chocolate anyways. You will maintain a slimmer waistline than those happy stupid in love couples)
- About 3% of pet owners will give Valentine's Day gifts to their pets. (Probably chocolate.) ... um... at least you're not a dead dog? Pretty sure chocolate kills them.
- Valentines day is stupid day where people feel the need to broadcast their love.. or like.
- I just read that the highest breakup rate on Facebook occurs right after Valentines day. So be glad you aren't being deceived on a romantic evening out right before the bomb drops.
- I bet you have at least one girlfriend who is single and willing to make Valentines Day a drunken debauchery of cynicism and self-pity.
Why do we (being the collective single peoples) feel so badly when holidays come around? Yes, there's the obvious reminder that you are alone while you watch happy couples snuggled next to each other on a carriage ride while the snow flakes dust their eye lashes. When she laughs and he pulls her in to his chest and kisses the top of her head you can't help but have tears welling up in your eyes with the thought of "I'm always going to be alone." There's nothing worse than actually being a fly on the wall observing real love and affection when the happy couple is completely unaware that anyone is watching them.
But that isn't always the case. In everyone's life there is a Tessie. She makes you hate your life. Her life is ALWAYS going perfect and her boyfriend is always AMAZING and he's the BEST and she just LOVES HIM SO MUCH and her job is perfect and she goes to the gym every day and her roots are never showing on her dyed hair. She is moving to the best part of town with her boyfriend of three years and they just got engaged and he's taking her on a romantic couples cruise for valentines day to the Caribbean.
Oops. I omitted part of her name. She's Tall-Tale Tessie. Better known as Fake-it-til-you-make-it Francine.
How do you spot a fake-it-til-you-make-it Francine?
She's always telling you how amazing her life is. She talks up everything she is doing to make it sound like the BEST thing in the world. Example: She's shooting a feature film in midtown (she's shooting a student film in the Bronx). She's moving into a loft apartment with her boyfriend (she's moving into an apartment that has a loft bed space above their studio apartment).
She and Frank are sooooo happy together. They are so in love and she knows he is the one. She writes on her facebook and twitter: "I love my boyfriend sooo much. He's the best in the whole wide world! I couldn't be a luckier girl!" or on his wall "I love you babe. Thank you for being so amazing. This weekend was perfect ;););) <3 xoxoxo." Usually his wall is COVERED with messages such as the one above.
Which forces me to ask the question - what is she trying to prove? Tessie thinks she is fooling everyone with her over-zealous energy and happy facade... but she's really only fooling herself. Anyone who forces her happiness onto other people is doing it for a reason. She's unhappy. There is something missing or lacking in her relationship so she is trying to make up for it by telling the world how happy she is. Faking happiness doesn't make you happy.
My thought? If you feel like you need to prove something when you're with someone, he's probably not "the one."
So if you find yourself down in the blues because of a Tall-Tale Tessie, just remember: no one's relationship is ever as it seems. You aren't there with them behind closed doors. Most of the time the "happy" couples have much deeper rooted issues than those who openly have their good and bad days.
So on Valentines day, go out with the girls. Forget that it is a day for the unhappy troubled souls in relationships and be happy that you are healthy, have friends and only have to answer to yourself. <3
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